Often Times, Deep Sadness is Really Unresolved Anger

It’s not uncommon for one to experience waves of emotions during breathwork. It’s helpful to understand the underlying reasons behind these emotions.

Fear and sadness and anger have a very complex relationship with each other. For example, if a parent is diagnosed with a terminal illness, the feeling their child may be aware of is sadness but underneath that is many times an anger at the parent for dying, for “abandoning” him or her. And, fear is involved also, a fear of being unacceptable if she/he showed anger to a loved one.

Quoting a therapist from an article in the Transactional Analysis Journal: “If a person is stuck in sadness, I look for fear and anger that has not been dealt with”. We have seen this in many breathwork sessions where participants come in having taken anti-depressant medications for years and exhibit signs of sadness or depression.  During their breathwork sessions, they access and release their anger and slowly but surely become more aware of it and release it.  This will, in general, diminish the grip their depression or sadness has on them. But, none of this is absolute “proof”, just a theory about the relationship between these various emotions.

There are several things that need to happen to get through to the other side:

1) Understanding – your thoughts create your emotions. So, find the thoughts that are creating the emotions, change your thinking patterns and your emotions will change also.

2) Responsibility – understand and embody that you are responsible for your emotional states, 100%. Things that happen in the outside world only trigger what is already inside of you. Never project the cause of your emotions on anything in the outside world. When you project the cause onto the outside world, you make yourself into a victim and, from that state of being, you cannot consciously change your emotional states or create/manifest your desired reality. Once you take responsibility for something (in this case, your emotional states), you can change it.

3) Release – Release the emotions that you are are suppressing in your body in a safe way–that means you do not project them into the outside world. If the emotion is anger, don’t get angry at somebody else, they are not the cause of your anger. It is already there inside of you, waiting to happen. You can access and release emotions in your breathwork sessions or even do exercises in your life to release them when you are alone. You evolve through facing emotions like fear and anger. There is intense energy in anger. The energy of anger can be transmuted into intense presence or awareness when completely accepted. The ego is sustained by resistance.

4) Make the emotions you feel part of your experience of the present moment but work with them internally as they happen, without projection. Make this part of your personal growth practice.

5) Let go of judgment of which emotions are “good” or “bad”. They are all just messages from your inner being and as such are clues to what is happening in your inner world. The above is a very simplistic explanation and it is a process; it does not happen overnight. However, breathwork can definitely support you in the above process of healing and personal growth.

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